A loving relationship – when two people share emotions, burdens, joys and good times together. When the partners know how to bring out the best in the other. Meaningful relationships are hard to come by, and when they do we do it all to save them.
But sometimes things just don't work out. Sometimes even the most cute couple falls apart. Here are some of the biggest reasons why lovers break apart:
Circumstances
Whatever said and done not all relationships are meant to last. Sometimes it may just be that the couple has to prioritise other things over the relationship. There is nothing wrong if someone is more inclined to stabilise his/her career before giving more time to the relationship. It is better that there are no regrets later because if career opportunities are let go, there might be bitterness. Obviously some prioritising has to be done.
Some people also chose to give in to other factors like family, health and even moving away to another city for something else. Many times, if the relationship is healthy there are chances that the couple gets back together.
Infidelity
The tragedy is sometimes many people, just for excitement sake decide to cheat on their perfectly good partners. If somehow they can keep the cheating a secret, these people think it is OK to do whatever they please without thinking of their partner's feelings. Men and women both have been known to go behind their partner's back to “just have fun”. This also leads to a lot of mistrust and jealousy. And eventually it is not good for either parties.
Wrong reasons for being in a relationship
Peer pressure makes us believe that it is essential to be in a relationship, no matter what. That leads us to choose whoever shows interest in us first.
We also tend to look for shallow qualities in people when we look for partners. Sometimes we don't realise that inner qualities like honesty, affection, intelligence, humour and passion are much more important than money, good looks and style. Some of the most long lasting relationships come out of common interests and shared friendships, not how good you look together on Facebook.
Selfishness, narcissism
This also includes ego. Most of us centre everything towards our own selves. We tend to think that the effort has to come only from the other side. Relationships are a two way street, it can never be one person indulging the other. There has to be a balance and compromise in putting yourself first. There is no reason to be a sacrificial lamb as it only leads to resentment.
Unnecessary jealousy
Believe it or not, many people think that if you partner is not jealous of you mingling with others he/she does not love you enough. While envy can crop up at times in every loving couple, it should not be the ruling emotion in your love life. There should not be so much mistrust that you cannot go out grocery shopping without your partner asking you questions about your whereabouts and vice-versa. Mistrust and jealousy can clam down any bond. Give the other person a little space. Have your own time and give him/her some of their own time – your relationship will only improve.
